Build a Godly Relationship Before Marriage

Build a Godly Relationship Before Marriage 

by Jordan Doris

Most people want to truly understand love. In the Bible, God paints a very clear picture that helps us to understand if we really are in love. One of the greatest love stories that we find in the Bible is the Song of Solomon. It is also known as the Song of Songs. This is a story that helps us to better understand how to build Godly relationships. This article is full of great tips that will help you to build a Godly relationship before marriage.

1.) Physical Restraint- While we are attracted to our partners, God asks us to practice physical restraint until marriage. If you practice physical restraint in relationship by saving intimate moments for marriage (Even holding hands and sitting too close  with each other can lead to intimate relationships - AVOID IT - cannot stress enough of how important this matter is!),-Hebrews13:4-"Let marriage be held in honor among all, and let the marriage bed be pure, for God will judge the sexually immoral and adulterous." 

2.) Maintain Your Character- Be who you are when you are with your future spouse. Don't try to be someone you're not. It is important that both you and your future spouse show your true colors before marriage. This way there will be NO SURPRISES once you are married!  Be happy and attain the fruit of the spirit in your personal life! - 1 Timothy 6:6 - "But godliness with contentment is great gain." & Galatians 5:22-23 - " But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, forbearance, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness and self-control. Against such things there is no law."

3.) Get Opinions From Others- We may not always want to hear what others want to say, but it is important that we LISTEN to their opinion. Listen to what the one you love have to say. 

Titus 3:1 - "Remind the people to be subject to rulers and authorities, to be obedient, to be ready to do whatever is good." 

4.) Allow the Man to take the Lead- God asks men to lead in a relationship;however that doesn't mean that a woman should not have an opinion. Make sure that you are both in this together for theRIGHT REASONS! 

Ephesians 5:21-25 - "Submit to one another out of reverence for Christ.Wives, submit yourselves to your own husbands as you do to the Lord. For the husband is the head of the wife as Christ is the head of the church, his body, of which he is the Savior. Now as the church submits to Christ, so also wives should submit to their husbands in everything.Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her."

5.) Praise Each Other- Find reasons every day to give each other praise. This will help you to BUILD LOVE & SECURITY in your relationship. Tell your future spouse the things that you love about him or her and be there for them during happy times as well as tough times. - 

1 Thessalonian 5:11 - "So encourage each other and build each other up, just as you are already doing."

6.) Become One in Spirit- Make sure that both you and your partner are in the same place spiritually. (As nice as it may be for two people to live together meeting each other’s needs,GOD HAS A HIGHER CALLING FOR THE MARRIAGE. Even as they were to be serving Christ with their lives before marriage

Romans 12:1-2 - "Therefore, I urge you, brothers and sisters, in view of God’s mercy, to offer your bodies as a living sacrifice, holy and pleasing to God—this is your true and proper worship. Do not conform to the pattern of this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind. Then you will be able to test and approve what God’s will is—his good, pleasing and perfect will.", now they are to serve Christ together as a unit and raise their children to serve God 

1 Corinthians 7:29-34  - "What I mean, brothers, is that the time is short. From now on those who have wives should live as if they had none; those who mourn, as if they did not; those who are happy, as if they were not; those who buy something, as if it were not theirs to keep; those who use the things of the world, as if not engrossed in them. For this world in its present form is passing away. I would like you to be free from concern. An unmarried man is concerned about the Lord's affairs--how he can please the Lord. But a married man is concerned about the affairs of this world--how he can please his wife-- and his interests are divided. An unmarried woman or virgin is concerned about the Lord's affairs: Her aim is to be devoted to the Lord in both body and spirit. But a married woman is concerned about the affairs of this world--how she can please her husband."

Malachi 2:15 - Has not the one God made you? You belong to him in body and spirit. And what does the one God seek? Godly offspring.So be on your guard, and do not be unfaithful to the wife of your youth.“The man who hates and divorces his wife,” says the LORD, the God of Israel, “does violence to the one he should protect,”says the LORD Almighty. So be on your guard, and do not be unfaithful.[Breaking Covenant Through Injustice] You have wearied the LORD with your words. “How have we wearied him?” you ask.By saying, “All who do evil are good in the eyes of the LORD, and he is pleased with them” or “Where is the God of justice?”

Ephesians 6:4 - "Fathers,do not exasperate your children; instead, bring them up in the training and instruction of the Lord."

Priscilla and Aquila, in Acts 18, would be good examples of this. As a couple pursues serving Christ together, the joy which the Spirit gives will fill their marriage (Galatians 5:22-23 - Fruit of the spirit). In the Garden of Eden, there were three present (Adam, Eve, and God), and there was joy. So, if God is central in a marriage today, there also will be joy. Without God, a true and full oneness is not possible!) You should make sure that both you and your spouse believe in Jesus Christ as your savior. A solid Christian foundation is key to building a Godly relationship.  

(Bible-based) Pre marital counseling is a great way to build a relationship with God and with your future spouse. Ask the pastor at your church for more information about premarital counseling. You could also ask the minister that will be performing your ceremony. Using (Bible-based) premarital counseling is a great way to get to know each other better. You may find out some things about your potential spouse that you don't like. Now is the time to address these issues. Not after you have already gotten married.

About the Author

Jordan Doris has been writing articles online for nearly 2 years now. 

Source : http://goarticles.com/article/How-to-Build-a-Godly-Relationship-Before-Marriage/4739501/

because HE FIRST LOVES ME

Malam setelah pulang doa Rabu,, aku pergi makan nasgor Rajawali sama someone special. yang akan dan seterusnya aku panggil "honey"... (koq bisa??? ciyeee... siapa tuuuch?? -----> nanti kapan2 aku ceritain prosesnya, karena sekarang masih dalam pergumulan juga ^^)

Nah, kami klo ngbrol bs dari A-Z.. hahahh... tapi kemudian kami jadi agak serius saat ngmngin kisah perjalanan kami trus dia ada bilang "gak tau kenapa ya, aku dari dulu gt.. ce duluan yg biasa deketin aku, aku niih gak pinter ngmng aplg depan kamu. yang ada aku lakuin hal-hal aneh dan memalukan. Aku ngerasa banyak kurang-kurangnya. gak PD aja."
aku dieem... aku liatin dia... dalam hati aku blng sama Tuhan sambil liat dia, "God, aku gak tw hrs blng apa, tp Engkau tau BETAPA AKU BERSYUKUR  liat pria ini, BETAPA AKU KAGUM PADAMU yang telah menciptakannya dan membentuknya..."
akhirnya aku tatap dia dan aku bilang,, "Saat aku memutuskan untk bersama mu, memilih mengasihi dirimu, itu artinya aku menerima keseluruhan dirimu, lebih-kurangnya trmasuk your past, accptd u who u are.."
malamnya aku sms dia lagi "hon, ingat ya, I love u who u are.. even u can't talk well with me, even u sing "falesly".. heheh..  ketawa gede2,  (blablabla-skiip). Sriuss lhoo.. justru itu yang aku suka dr dirimu, aku gak menginginkan yang lain.."

waktu dalam perjalanan pulang, aku memikirkan kata2 yang ku ucapkan sm honey. koq bisa ya aku ngmng gt, hahahah... sok wise... apa sanggup? kan belum liat smua jelek2nya honey. yakin accptd u who u are??   . sampai di rumah pas aku ketik sms itu, aku tiba2 sadaaaarr.. koq aku bs segitunya...

soalnyaaaa... ada yang pernah lakukan itu sama aku terlebih dahulu. someone who loves me more than everyone can do. even my parent. orang tua memang prnah mencintai kita tp ada saatnya juga mereka mempermasalahkan kelemahan kita kan?! so, Who is he??




JESUS CHRIST. Yes.. KASIHNYA melebihi apapun, siapapun, dimanapun, kapanpun!! Kasihnya itu yang mengubahkanku.. DIA MENERIMA AKU APA ADANYA.. duluuu sblm aku bertobat aku sempet mikir, siapa sih yg mau sayang sama orang kyk aku yang udah ancur-ancuran gni, siapa sih yang mau peduli sama hidup aku yang gak penting ini??
HE CAME and said "looked me!!!", DIA menunjukkan tangan-Nya yang hancur karna dipaku, badanNya yang penuh luka.. "because I LOVE YOU,VI."
and I said "why me?? kenapa gak si anu yg baik2,, aku nihh jelek Tuhan, gak layak, knp Tuhan mau syg sama orang kyk aku ini? Rugi lho Tuhan, aku gak bisa apa2, aku ini begini begituuu....."
 Tuhan tutup mulut aku... suruh aku diemm, sssttt...
"AKU memilihmu, dan memang gak ada satu pun alasan yang membuatmu layak, tapi AKU MEMILIHmu"

DIA adalah ALLAH yang mau ambil resiko untuk pilih orang yang kyk gini nihhh. Thanks God untuk penerimaan yang tanpa syarat... dan thkQ dulu Tuhan gak menghakimi kelemahanku, Tuhan gak hina-hina aku saat aku jatuh berkali-kali dalam dosa kyk yg sering manusia lakukan (pdhl mereka2 jg manusia yg sama2 berdosa, dodol ya..), Tuhan terus beri aku kesempatan untuk bertobat, Tuhan kasih aku kekuatan hadapi kelemahan aku, dia dukung terus, bhkan saat aku jatuh tidak dibiarkan aku tergletak..

so,, kalau aku bisa mengasihi orang lainn, kalau aku bisa menerima honey apa adanya.... itu karna TUHAN TERLEBIH DAHULU MENGASIHIKU, DIA mengajarkanku arti kasih.. DIA memberi teladan mengenai kasih, DIA ADALAH KASIH





Guys, buat yang dah punya pacar (buat yang belum punya juga sihhh. ato yang dah merit. eheehe),, bner2 kudu ngerti dulu KASIHNYA TUHAN sama kamu.. karna DIA adalah KASIH itu sendiri. dengan gitu kita bisa mencintai pacar kita dengan cara yang benar. yang dah alami kasih Tuhan aja kadang bisa mencintai dengan cara yang salah apalgi yang gak ngerti sama skali.  klo gak pernah ngerti KASIH TUHAN dan mencintai dengan caranya Tuhan,, yang ada kita akan menyakiti pasangan kita. kenapa?
karena tema besar di dunia ini all about love, orng banyak sakit karna cinta, menderita karna kekurangan cnta, buat jahat untuk mendapatkan cinta, semua manusia kebutuhan dasarnya dicintai dan mencintai.. tapi sampai kapan pun gak kan pernah cintanya manusia memuaskan manusia  karena cinta itu dah rusak sejak manusia jatuh ke dalam dosa, Hanya TUHANlah yang mampu mengisi kekosongan manusia akan dicintai dan mencintai itu, ONE and ONLY HIM..... because GOD IS LOVE
dengan basic inilah kita mencintai pacar kita. ya kn?!
coba klo misalnya ada masalah ntar sama honey, aku gk pny kasih itu, aku bs aja menghakimi, ngomel2 soal kelemahannya, koq dia gini, koq gituuu... tp kan aku ank Tuhan yang dah dikasihi.. so, aku ngerti saat menghadapi masalah dengannya, saat liat kelemahannya, saat dia buat kesalahan,, aku akan lakuin seperti yang Tuhan dah lakuin sama aku...    beri pengampunan, beri kesempatan, kasih kekuatan, dukung dia berubah, gk kn biarin dia jatuh, dll,,
ini berlaku untuk smua areaaa hidup kita... gak hanya soal pacar.. (hehe.. sory soalnya aku kn inspirasi awalnya dr honey.) tp juga relasi dengan sesama...
NGERTI dan ALAMI dulu KASIH TUHAN baru ayoo kita belajr MENGASIHI DENGAN CARA TUHAN MENGASIHI KITA